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Greetings, Gratefuls! This month I want to share with you a tiny but powerful insight that may help you not pull the "trigger" when the in-laws show up. First Fact: We only attract our mirrors into our lives. This one is so easy to "disprove" if you're only looking at behaviors. So we must move to the Second Fact: The dysfunction we see in those we attract is usually the exact opposite of our dysfunction, but carries the same intensity. "She's so neat and he's so sloppy" or "He's so thrifty and she's such a spendthrift" can be deceiving. The truth is that we attract our mirrors of how healthy we are. Healthy, as in "in balance, not able to be easily triggered, at peace and harmony with ourselves and the world." So, why would a compulsive caretaker attract someone who "just doesn't want to be helped?" To help her heal. Why would someone who feels guilty all the time attract someone who does a lot of blaming? To help him heal. Why would someone who is "positively" optimistic attract someone who is always pessimistic? To help her heal. (I guarantee you she judges him for being pesssimistic as much as he judges her for having her head in the clouds. They're a perfect match!) So, what is the cure for the common cold shoulder? See the Lesson and Get Grateful (that such a perfect mirror showed up in your life)! The person who ticks us off the most is our best teacher, and you love growing and healing or you wouldn't be reading this Key-Mail! Meanwhile, are you having fun staying grateful and manifesting your heart's desires? I am so grateful for the number of out of state schools signing up for our year- round curriculum, for the successes my coaching clients are enjoying, for the cruise with Mike Dooley (www.tut.com) that I'm about to take with one of our 8 to GREAT trainers, for the sweet guy who showed up in my life two weeks after I stuck a picture of a happy couple on my dream board, and for all the fun of watching my 15-year-old embracing each day. (If you want a great stress- relieving laugh, Zach suggests you invest in a Jim Gaffigan CD!) To strengthen your hope and happiness muscles, this month I offer you words of wisdom from Ryan, as well as one of our newest High-Ways Handbook activities which anyone of any age can use to feel better. Do you all know that you are loved and loveable? Do you know that right now you are being given all the tools and teachers you need to live at the heights of joy and peace? Yes you do know. I'm just here to remind you of what you already know. My pleasure. Blissings and Holiday Blessings, MK
How Powerful Are A Child's Dreams? Ask Carrie
Underwood. On Oprah's December 11 show last week, Oprah asked,
"How did it feel when you won female country singer of the
year? Could you ever have imagined being up there on the stage?"
Her answer was pure High-Way 1, Get the Picture : "Well, actually, ever since I was a kid, I've been practicing my acceptance speech!" Heroes abound and one of my newest ones is from right here in Nebraska. Ryan was in prison this time last year. This year he has a thriving business, a beautiful girlfriend, and is negotiating with me to write the 8 High-Ways book for those behind bars! What was Ryan's motivation to turn his life around so dramatically? He says that his first week in prison three years ago he saw his worst nightmare of what he might become. Today he is 4 1/2 years sober and is in top physical condition. Meanwhile, he received rave reviews from the Louisville students that he spoke to last week. "Everyone is doing time in one way or another. We all have our own personal prisons we are breaking free from. The steps to finding freedom are in this 8 to GREAT program. High- Way #1) Get the Picture of what you want. I knew what I didn't want and that's how I got so clear on what I wanted." "As for High-Way #2, Risk is so awesome that when it works it makes up for the times it doesn't work!...When I got out of prison I often applied for 20 jobs a week but my record kept people from hiring me. I'm now doing very well selling kitchen appliances on Ebay and even have my own small storefront in Lincoln, NE. I love my life."
"High-Way #3 is probably my favorite. Full Responsibility is where it's at because your life will be what you make it. It's not about your parents or friends or society in general. My failures are my fault. I know that. But my successes are also my fault. I am who I am because of my choices and we can all make new choices anytime we want to..." "Finally, I love working the Gratitude Attitude. I remember the first time I started my day with gratitudes and had 4 key business contacts over the next 48 hours, whereas I hadn't had 1 in 3 weeks. Now, because MK says I have to have "new" gratitudes every day, it sometimes takes me 5 or 10 minutes to come up with new ones, but I do it because it feels so great and starts my day out right." Principal Cindy Osterloh and I are so grateful for Ryan's coming to speak to the Louisville students. If you'd like him to speak to your group, contact us at mk@mkmueller.com.
High-Way 3 - #25 What Do I Need to be Happy?
Objective: To realize that we are fully responsible for our happiness, and that B.C. (blaming and complaining) makes us unhappy. 1) (Write on the board before beginning: ) The less we need, the more attractive we are. - Lester Levenson 2) (Read aloud or paraphrase: ) Hundreds of teachers, from Gandhi to Lester Levenson (the author of today’s quote) have found that we really need very little to be happy, but that when we think we need a lot to be happy, we are miserable. We can learn to be Fully Responsible for our happiness, and not give our power away to people and things. For example, some people think they need to make $100,000 a year, but studies have shown that once basic needs of food and clothing and shelter are met, there is NO correlation between income and happiness levels! So today we’re going to do an activity as a class. Let’s
take 5 minutes to write on the board what we or someone we know
believes they need to be happy. Who will write on the board
for us? (You may want to ask two students to come forward as
students often speak up quickly.) Here is what some students
have written in the past: 3. (Continue with the list until everyone’s answers are on the board - at least 15. Then hand out the journals and have students spread out their desks around the room for privacy.) Now I want you to turn to any page in your journal and draw a line down the middle of the page. Now write a list down the left hand side of the page of “What I Think I Need to be Happy.” Think of what things you complain about when you don’t get them, from your favorite foods to people being on time. The list does not need to be in any order. (Give them 3-4 minutes to complete this before continuing.) Next, write a list of “What I Really Need to Be Happy” down the right hand side. Notice if you decide to move any of the items from the left hand column to the right. Take a few minutes to do that now. 4. (At the end of class, discuss: )
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MK's Success Skills Training Weekend for January is full, but there are still slots available for the weekend starting March 9 at 1:00 p.m. and ending Sunday, March 11 at 4:00 p.m. Now there are more reasons than ever to put this event on your calendar, including dozens of new activities in the Trainer's Handbook and a new Referral Payback Program! For more information on this positively powerful experience, go to MK's website, www.mkmueller.co m, and click on the Weekend Training button under her photo. Questions? Call us at (402) 553-0555. Want to enter an Omaha Symphony poetry contest? Anyone can enter. The topic is "dreams" and you can win a $200 gift certificate to Barnes and Nobles. MK was so inspired that she wrote a new song for the contest. If you'd like information email us, or if you'd like a CD copy of MK singing "Dream Come True" Day, send $10 and your name and address to MK Mueller, 1647 S. 152 St. Omaha, NE, 68144. Catch MK every Monday morning at 5:40 and 7:40 on Jack Swanda's show - Lite 101.9 FM. Also watch for her column in ONE Magazine and her education column in the Plattsmouth Journal! Schools all over the country are signing up for our year-round curriculum! Want more information on how you can bring 8 to GREAT to your student's middle or high school? Call us at (402) 553-0555 or email us at mk@mkmueller.com. MK is now booking engagements for 2007-8. If your workplace, school or organization brings in speakers and trainers, call now to reserve a spot on her calendar! 800-419-0444.
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